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Stop Negative Self Talk From Ruining Your Life
How You're Secretly Sabotaging Yourself
Have you been paying attention to the conversation you have with yourself?
Your subconscious mind is always eavesdropping on your self-talk.
Studies have shown that up to 80% of our thoughts are negative.
Parents, teachers, and the media have put ideas in our heads making things worse.
Doubt and perfectionism lead to self-criticism when we don't meet high standards.
We end up self-sabotaging our progress without realizing it.
These thoughts turn into
Anxiety: You’re afraid to engage in your favorite activities because you believed the words, “you suck!”
Depression: You become alone and desperate for connection because your family members called you “shy, quiet, and weird.”
Mental health issues: You become a recluse and addicted to media because your “friends and family” made you feel bad for fully expressing yourself.
Be impeccable with your word.
Your word is like a seed, and the mind is fertile.
Words have power.
They’re like casting spells upon yourself and others directly influencing the emotions, actions, and outcomes of reality.
In my younger years, I lived and breathed basketball.
My friends in my neighborhood would often joke “you suck haha” when I missed a shot or lost the ball.
I started to lose confidence and missed shots more often.
Then it spread to many other things I did.
My body language changed. My thoughts changed. My words all changed.
These 5 phrases became a part of my vocabulary:
I’ll try
I can’t
I might
I guess
I could maybe
Leading to half-assed efforts and insecurity.
Be impeccable with your word
Don't try to work out, train.
Don't maybe reach out, connect.
Don't think about creating, create.
Don't possibly make money, earn it.The conversation you have with yourself makes a world of difference.
— 𝐁𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐧 🐉 (@BrandMarz)
5:57 PM • Feb 12, 2023
This is why it’s crucial to be impeccable with your word.
So how do we put this into practice?
Start with the thoughts that come up often.
What assumptions are you making?
Who are you spending time around?
How does your posture look?
Let’s expand on how to do this.
#1 Gain brutal awareness
You need to become aware of the thoughts that are keeping you down.
Form a morning and night routine and journal the first and last things that come to mind each day.
Understand what triggers the negative thought patterns:
the people you hang out with
the environment you grew up in
an object or habit you observe daily
Practice mindfulness to gain awareness of thought (meditation).
Get yourself a trustworthy accountability partner to keep you focused (not a shit-talker)
This is going to change the perception you have in everything you do.
My habits, thoughts, and words changed when I moved out of my parent’s house.
Don’t blame, take massive action.
And don’t skip this step.
#2 Reprogram your brain
Your brain has two halves and two wolfs, negative and positive.
Which one are you feeding?
Starve the negative one.
Negotiate with yourself on word choice.
Make them assertive and forward-moving.
Write these down.
Remember that action moves levers, not thought.
The act of scribing and visualizing your poison is crucial.
Now, eliminate toxic people (get away from them, no need to call a hitman).
Yes, the ones who talk down to you. They aren’t friends.
And they don’t respect you or themselves.
Men, are you tired of people:
• speaking over you?
• not letting you finish?
• not listening to what you say?Here are 7 tips to talk like a boss and command respect without effort:
— Arthur Dias | 👑 Awaken The King • 𝗠𝗠 (@_awakentheking)
12:53 PM • Feb 16, 2023
Turn off the news and be mindful of the media you’re consuming.
Some swear by affirmations or talking to themselves in a mirror.
Use whatever feels natural.
Here’s a similar but better approach:
Record yourself speaking.
Listen for the words such as “can, maybe, try” and any tone of uncertainty.
Replace them with “will, definitely, and doing”.
Then watch your body language.
#3 Get physical
What does your posture look like?
Are you slumped over, staring at a screen?
This keeps you in a negative state.
It sends a signal to those around you that you don’t think highly of yourself.
The more you practice good posture and movement, the more confidence you’ll feel.
Action destroys fear.
When in doubt, move about (cheesy but you damn well remember it).
Go to the gym. Thou shalt hoist iron slabs.
You can even train at home, there’s no excuse.
Doing 10 minutes of exercise has proven to release tons of feel-good chemicals in your brain
I teach you how to start and stick to a routine here.
Take care of your body and you’ll start to feel more positive, energized, and motivated.
TL;DR
Words have power, they become your reality:
Become aware of your negative thoughts
Reprogram your mind with action
Move your body, save your mind
The word is your sword.
You create the most beautiful kingdom or destroy everything around you.
It’s up to you to decide which one you’ll choose.
Be mindful of your self-talk.
Pay attention to what you say and how you say it.
Be aware of the people and media you consume.
Move your body. Get out of the chair. Stand tall with your shoulders back!
And start taking action to reprogram your mind.
Here’s how you can start:
Subscribe to my newsletter so you’re filling your mind with high-value action steps.
Reply to this email (or send me a DM on Twitter) with your top 3 goals.
Share this with a friend or someone who needs to hear this.
See you next week friend!
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